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Saturday, 12 May 2012

Mother's Day Pink Saturday Guest Post with Tricia Goyer 5/12

Welcome to a Wonderful
Pink Saturday Celebration
of Mother's !

Tricia Goyer is guest posting here today ~
Welcome to Faith Hope & Cherrytea, Tricia!
We look forward to celebrating motherhood with you this special weekend...

Whether you'll be waking up to breakfast in bed ~

with something delish like Sophie Dahl's
Lemon Ricotta Spelt Pancakes
{as featured at pink to green blog }
{complete w/ recipe}

or spending the day reflecting ~
"Making the decision to have a child - it's momentous. 
It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."

-Elizabeth Stone

I warmly wish you ~

What I Am Not 
by Tricia Goyer

Becoming a mother is a complicated thing. Not only am I trying to negotiate a relationship with my child, I am trying to negotiate a relationship with myself as I attempt to determine how I mother, how I feel about mothering, how I want to mother and how I wish I was mothered.

— Andrea J. Buchanan, in Mother Shock3

Sometimes the easiest way to discover who we are is to know who we are not.

We are not our children. We all know mothers who go overboard trying to make themselves look good by making their children look great. I saw one woman on the Oprah television show who had bought her preschool daughter more than twelve pairs of black shoes just so the girl could have different styles to go with her numerous outfits! Just as we -don’t get report cards for mothering, we also -don’t get graded on our child’s looks or accomplishments. While you want your children to do their best and succeed in life, your self-esteem -shouldn’t be wrapped up in your child.

Life as I See It:

My individuality will never end. There will be no one exactly like me, not even my child. She will be like me in some ways, but not at all in others. I -wouldn’t have it any other way.

— Desiree, Texas

We are not our mothers. I remember the first time I heard my mother’s voice coming out of my mouth. The words “because I told you so .  .  .” escaped before I had a chance to squelch them.

It’s not until we have kids that we truly understand our mothers — all their frets, their nagging, and their worries.

It’s also then that we truly understand their love.

Since you are now a mother, it’s good to think back on how you were raised. If there were traditions or habits that now seem wise and useful, incorporate them into your parenting. You also have permission to sift out things you now know -weren’t good. Just because you’re a product of your mother, that -doesn’t mean you have to turn out just like her. Repeat after me, “I am not my mother.”

We are not like any other mother out there. Sometimes you may feel like the world’s worst mother. After all, your friend never yells at her son — and sometimes you do. Then again, your friend may feel bad because you have a wonderful bedtime routine that includes stories and songs. In many cases, the moms you feel inferior to only look like they have it together. All moms feel they -don’t “measure up.” Instead of feeling unworthy, we should realize that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. The key is where we place our focus.

 “Let’s just go ahead and be what we were made to be, 
without .  .  . comparing ourselves with each other, 
or trying to be something we aren’t” 
Romans 12:5 – 6 MESSAGE

The problem with comparison is, we always measure our weaknesses against the strengths of others.

Instead, we need to thank God for our strengths. We can also ask God to help us overcome our weaknesses — not because we want to compare ourselves, or look good in someone else’s eyes, but because we want to be the best mom out there.

Tricia Goyer is a CBA best-selling author and the winner of two American Christian Fiction Writers’ Book of the Year Awards (Night Song and Dawn of a Thousand Nights). She co-wrote 3:16 Teen Edition with Max Lucado and contributed to the Women of Faith Study Bible. Also a noted marriage and parenting writer, she lives with her husband and children in Arkansas. You can find her online at or at her weekly radio show, Living Inspired.

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"A mother is not a person to lean on, 
but a person to make leaning unnecessary."
-Dorothy Canfield Fisher

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Linda said...

Very beautiful and inspiring message! It should be required reading for all mothers - old and new! Thank you!

Carol Brown said...

Thank you for stopping by and following my blog on the John 3:16 blog hop. It took some looking but I found your follow button and followed you back. Enjoyed your blog. Blessings

Love Of Quilts said...

Happy Mother's Day!

Kelly Scott said...

I love the first photo with the pink roses! Thank you for sharing these photos and quotes.

The Tablescaper said...

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- The Tablescaper

Faith Hope Cherrytea said...

BLess each of you for your Mothering influence wherever it is open to you!

and warm appreciation for your Mother's Day and GooD Wishes!
You inspirit me...!

Charlotte said...

What beautiful thoughts. Thank you for sharing.

Barb said...

This is a beautiful post, full of good sensible advice.We mums do tend to compare our percieved failings and forget to look at our strenghts. As you say ..We are all different.
Have a good week
God Bless
Barb from Australia

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